Pity Party Poop – Why Playing Victim Is Neither Cute Nor Healthy

PITY PARTY POOP, as in.. some lay it on thick! How and why many 2-leggeds live in victim mode is more than sad – it is pathetic. As a certified Life Coach and knowing that much of todays dis-ease is emotional, I cannot help but write about what gets stuck between the ears (and not just body) of some.

I don’t preach detox for my health and certainly not for finances. It is my soul’s purpose to help you AgeLess ON Purpose. My heart aches to see anyone die prematurely, from something that could have been prevented, and having never answered their call. I yearn to see all take control of their body, mind, and spirit instead of having it control them. To see adults pout like children means they are stuck and they have stuff stuck in them.

Detox has done more for me than any antidepressant, counseling session, or life coach. I have tried all for a short time just to find they were either a waste of my time, energy, money or purpose. They did nothing to help me. The firing of both life coaches is what prompted me to be certified. First life coach I hired to help me start a non-profit – she wanted me to plan a family reunion. Okay?! The second life coach wanted me to get a job. Basically she treated me like a number following my year of having custody of 4 lil ones. I was borderline depressed and filled with intense heartache (having never had children) when they went back to their mother. I hired her to help me get back to where I left off, which was working on the 501c3 nonprofit (that started gaining momentum). It was created in memory of my parents.

This post is not about any accomplishment or in pointing fingers – it is about helping snap anyone out of playing victim, being bitter instead of better and having one pity party after another. And also to get you to forgive. It could save more than your life. If you are serious about living in the present and dream of a future, GET OUT OF THE PAST. Stop seeing the glass half empty, and be thankful instead of trying to find something wrong with everything and everyone. The self-inflicted, pouring of salt in the wound does not heal. Detox does!

“Complaining opens the door to conflict and thankfulness slams it shut!”  ~Evinda Lepins~

Start with your bowel, then liver unless you’re having kidney issues. The liver is the organ responsible for anger and emotions. Just know… you MUST be having regular bowel movements prior to cleaning liver. Not doing so can leave you physically sick and quite possibly more angry and/or depressed.

I write this post after finding out 3 weeks later that my late mother’s brother died. Not even their last surviving sister was notified. Neither she nor I were upset, just shocked and saddened that none of us were invited to say our physical goodbyes. Less than 12 hours later some were complaining they were not called. Now mind you… I found out via Facebook by responding to a comment to an earlier post. (I then kept my discussion private via messages). Instead of inquiring, like a few did, some chose to have a pity party on Facebook. As it is, much of social networking is filled with Fakers, Takers, and Showcasers, which is why I post mostly off Facebook. But to use a death of someone you never reached out to as a way to get pity or publicity, is victimhood! You may wanna consider crawling out and using it as a stepping stone because playing victim is considered a personality disorder. I’m not into labels, just wanting those stuck in it to see the seriousness of it – the only one it hurts is the one playing the star role.

This is only ONE instance of many. And yes, we have all played victim. It’s time we forgive, give thanks and only… SEE THE GLASS HALF FULL. I don’t claim to have arrived, meaning I still have moments of emotional stuff, but… I do know my diet plays a huge part in it. Without eating healthy most hours of the day/days of the week and my 3 or more times/year detox, I’M A WRECK. I don’t particularly like myself when I’m not me. Of course perimenopause has given me moments of what I call, HORMOMENTS… where I wonder where the old me went. Thankfully these moments don’t last long. Being that I never suffered from PMS, this irritability/impatience of going through “the change” has been interesting. We gotta be able to laugh at ourselves and love ourselves enough to grow up. If you can’t, you’re blocked in more ways then one.

“Keep smiling – it takes 10 years off!” ~Jane Birkin~

I don’t write this to to put a feather in my cap or one UP anyone. I write to help free others of dis-ease in body, mind, and spirit. I’m not happy about the most recent family drama, but I’m certainly not gonna go blaming anyone for anything. There’s no glory in being grumpy (for no reason). Whether considered ill-natured, ill-humored, or ill tempered… it can make you ill. Getting over it will do more than add face value, it’ll bring value to your life!

 

“The self-defined “Victim” uses stealth personal power strategies to cope with anger, to “control” situations and other people in order to punish and to maintain a sense of superiority. Making use of “stealth” behavior provides the self-defined “Victim” a safety net while acting out this negative behavior pattern.

The self-defined “Victim’s” primary mechanism of personal power and control is through the manipulation of the sympathies of others outside or peripheral to the spouse or intimate other.”  ~exploringpersonalitydisorders.1hwy.com~

May this help at least one person. Once settled, which is sooner than later, I’ll be posting more often. Until then, for daily tidbits of info, go here.

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